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Should You Work a Vendor Fair as a New Doula? The Real Pros and Cons

8/26/2025

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​If you’ve been in the doula world for more than five minutes, you’ve probably seen other doulas posting about their vendor booths — complete with pretty banners, matching tablecloths, and bowls of candy. Maybe you’ve been tempted to sign up for one yourself. But before you spend your hard-earned dollars, let’s talk about what vendor fairs really do for a new doula business. Spoiler: most of the time, they’re marketing opportunities, not instant client-generators.

The Pros of Vendor Fairs

1. Visibility in Your Community
Vendor fairs put you face-to-face with dozens — sometimes hundreds — of people. Even if no one books you on the spot, you’re planting seeds for future inquiries.
2. Networking with Other Vendors
You might meet lactation consultants, prenatal yoga teachers, photographers, or other birth pros who can become referral partners. Also, don't forget about people that are not in the birth industry at all, but are networkers. Small businesses with a community following are also very important. Those connections can be worth more than a single client.
3. Practice Talking About Your Work
Having to explain what you do over and over helps you refine your elevator pitch. By the end of the day, you’ll have a smooth, confident way to talk about your services.

The Cons of Vendor Fairs

1. They Can Be Expensive — Especially Birth Fairs
Specialized birth and baby fairs often come with high booth fees. For a new doula on a tight budget, that’s a big chunk of your marketing funds. And if you don’t get any bookings, it can sting.
2. Flashy Booths Draw More Traffic
Agencies and more established businesses often have large, eye-catching displays. A simpler, lower-budget booth can still be effective — but you’ll need to work harder to draw people in.
3. Low Conversion Rates
Most attendees are browsing, not buying. You may leave with a list of emails, but actual bookings from vendor fairs are rare — especially for birth services, which require trust and a longer decision process.

A Better Option for New Doulas? Small, Local Events

For many new doulas, small family-focused community events are a smarter investment. They’re usually cheaper, more relaxed, and let you connect with people in a setting where you can have real conversations — without competing with big, flashy setups.
Think:
  • Local library parenting events
  • School or church family fairs
  • Farmer’s markets with a community booth section
You’ll spend less, have more authentic interactions, and build trust right where you live and work.

Deb's Final Thoughts

Vendor fairs can be fun and help with visibility, but they’re rarely the quickest path to new clients — especially if your budget is tight. If you do them, go in with the mindset that it’s a marketing opportunity, not an instant ROI (return on investment-meaning you will get new clients directly from the event). And don’t overlook the smaller, local events that can give you just as much — if not more — genuine connection for less money unless you have a large marketing budget to do larger events.
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Coworking for Doulas: Get It Done, Together

8/25/2025

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Working for yourself as a doula can feel lonely — and let’s be honest, distracting. There’s always laundry to fold, a client text to answer, or a million “shoulds” pulling at your brain. If you’re neurodivergent, it can feel even harder to stay on task when everything competes for your attention.
That’s why I’m starting something simple, affordable, and supportive:

Monthly Coworking on Zoom — just $5 a month.

Here’s how it works: once a month, we hop on Zoom together. We’ll chat for a few minutes, set our goals for the session, and then… we get to work. Microphones off and cameras on or off — your choice.
This is basically body doubling for doulas: when you know someone else is working alongside you, it’s suddenly so much easier to focus. Whether you use the time to write social posts, catch up on client notes, or finally tackle that project you’ve been avoiding, you’ll leave knowing you actually moved forward.
And at the end of each coworking session, we’ll take 15 minutes for an Ask Me Anything. Bring your questions about marketing, mindset, or the behind-the-scenes of running a doula business, and I’ll be there to support you.

One hour of coworking + 15 minutes of coaching. Once a month. Five bucks. Done.

Join us, and let’s build businesses that feel sustainable — without doing it all alone.

Link to register
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Pricing Your Doula Services (Without Spiraling About It)

8/19/2025

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So you’ve finished your doula training, picked your business name, made your social pages… and now you’re staring at your blank “Pricing” section wondering:
“How much is too much? What if people say no? Who do I think I am charging for this work anyway?”


Take a breath, friend. You’re not alone.
Let’s talk about pricing your services in a way that’s ethical, sustainable, and honors your energy, your skills, and your bills.
​ Take a deep breath. You’re not alone — and you’re not bad at business.
Let’s break down how to set pricing that supports both your clients and you — emotionally, energetically, and financially.

Why Pricing Feels So Hard (Especially for You)

If you’re like many of the doulas I mentor, pricing brings up a LOT of mental noise.
​Cue the spiral:
  • “I don’t want to be too expensive.”
  • “No one will pay me that much.”
  • “What if I scare away clients?”
  • “Other doulas charge less, maybe I should too…”
If those thoughts sound familiar, it’s not because you’re bad at business. It’s because you’re likely navigating money mindset blocks and impostor syndrome while trying to create a sustainable income in a caring profession. That’s a lot to hold.
But here’s the truth: undercharging doesn’t make you more accessible — it just makes it not sustainable..

How to Start Building Your Pricing (Without Guessing or Googling Random Numbers)

Right now, I see doulas charging between $1000-$2500 a birth or $30-$60 an hour for postpartum.  This is just an estimate and prices are all over the board. Some of it depends on how long you have been a doula (even new doulas can charge) and where you live. You are worth it.
Forget the idea of “how little can I get by on?”
You’re not building a bare-minimum hustle. You’re building a sustainable business.

Let’s walk through a simple framework that helps you set prices that make sense:

1. Start With Your Reality

Ask yourself:
  • What monthly income would help me feel steady and supported?
  • How many clients or hours can I take on per month without burning out?
  • What price per client or hour creates that foundation?
Example 1 - Start out goal
 Let’s say you need $1,500 a month and can support 2 births comfortably. That means each birth client needs to bring in at least $750 for you to break even.

Example 2 – Building Goal (Birth Doula)
You need $3,000/month and want no more than 2 birth clients/month.
$3,000 ÷ 2 = $1,500 per client — a sustainable, market-aligned rate.

​Example 3 – Postpartum Doula
You need $2,400/month and plan to work about 15 hours/week (or ~60 hours/month).
$2,400 ÷ 60 hours = $40/hour minimum to meet your goal.
That’s the floor, not the ceiling. If your local average is $45–$50/hour? Great — you’re in the right ballpark.

Example 4 - Single Parent Goal for Postpartum Doula
You need $5,000 a month and plan to work 40 hours a week (or 160 hours/month).
$5,000 ÷ 160 =$31.25 to meet your goal.

Keep in mind:
  • You’ll want to add a little cushion to account for taxes, business expenses, and cancellations.
  • Charging $45–$50/hour for postpartum or $1200 for births not only aligns with the average in some areas — it also helps you plan for breaks, sick days, and slow seasons.
  • Do you want to take vacations, time off for family events, holidays, or sick days? Add in more cushion.


2. Add Time and Value
Supporting a birth is not just 12 hours at the hospital.
It’s prenatal visits, texts at 11pm, on-call time, postpartum support, emotional labor, and more.
Once you outline what’s included in each package (and the energy it takes), it becomes easier to say, “Yeah, this is worth more than I thought.” I usually average about 40-50 hours per labor client.

3. Compare for Context, Not Confidence
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Look at what others in your area are charging, but don’t let it shake your confidence.
If your pricing is wildly lower, ask why. If it’s wildly higher, ask why. Use it as information, not judgment.
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What If You’re Just Starting and Feel Weird Charging “That Much”?

Offer a few sliding scale or scholarship spots — on purpose, not by accident.
Here’s the difference:
  • Sliding scale with boundaries: “I offer one reduced-rate spot per quarter. Please reach out to see if it’s available.”
  • Codependent panic discounting: “I’ll just lower my rate because they seemed unsure.”
Spoiler: One of these keeps you in business. The other keeps you burned out.

Here's my story on pricing when I started. I would give my price and then in the exact same breath, before anyone could respond, I would say, "But if that's too much, I can offer a discount!"  Please don't be like me there!

Want to Be Accessible? Stay in Business.

The best way to support birthing people in your community long term is to make your business sustainable. That means charging in a way that covers your life — without guilt.
You deserve to do this work without living in scarcity.

Deb's ​Final Thoughts (For the Doubt Gremlins)

  • Your pricing is not about your worth.
  • It’s not about how many births you’ve attended.
  • It’s not about being the cheapest doula in town.
  • It’s about building a business that honors your energy and supports your life — so you can keep showing up for your clients fully and without resentment.
  • You can adjust as you grow. But you can start now.
You’ve got this.
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“Should I Follow Up… Or Let It Go?” — A Neurodivergent Doula’s Guide to Following Up Without the Spiral

8/11/2025

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Let’s be honest: following up can feel like emotional roulette.
Did they forget to answer you? Are they ignoring you? Should you check in again? Are you being annoying?
And if you’re neurodivergent, that whole decision-making process can come with a side of rejection sensitivity, time blindness, executive dysfunction, and a well-worn loop of overthinking.
So how do you figure out when to follow up, when to let something go, and how to actually do it without frying your brain?
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Let’s break it down.

When You Should Follow Up

  • You sent a proposal or offer (birth doula, postpartum package, placenta encapsulation, etc.) and haven’t heard back in 3–5 business days.
  • You had a promising consult but the client wanted to "think about it" and gave no specific date for checking in.
  • You had a conversation or email thread that just dropped and you still need something (info, payment, signed contract, etc.).
  • Someone asked you for info (like availability or pricing) and you answered… but they ghosted you.
Following up isn’t annoying — it’s clarity. You’re offering a gentle reminder and keeping the door open.

When You Don’t Need to Follow Up

  • You’ve already followed up twice with no response.
  • You got a clear “no” (even if it felt vague or weird).
  • They booked someone else, unsubscribed, or said they’d reach out if/when they’re ready.
  • You’re only following up because you feel guilty for not doing more or you want closure that may never come.
Letting go can be hard (especially if rejection sensitivity kicks in), but chasing energy that isn’t reciprocated will drain your creative and nervous systems.

Why Following Up Is So Hard When You’re Neurodivergent

If any of these sound familiar, you’re not alone:
  • “I meant to follow up, but I forgot until three weeks later and now it feels too awkward.”
  • “I keep thinking about following up but can’t make myself do it.”
  • “I don’t know what to say and I spiral trying to write the perfect message.”
  • “What if I follow up and they’re mad at me?”
Neurodivergence can make follow-ups feel high-stakes, overwhelming, or completely off your radar. That doesn’t mean you’re flaky. It means your brain works differently — and that’s allowed.
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7 Tips for Following Up with a Neurodivergent Brain

  • Use a script. Don’t reinvent the wheel every time. Save a few follow-up templates in your notes or email drafts.
  • Set a rule, not a feeling. Instead of “I’ll follow up when it feels right,” try:
    • 3 days after consult
    • 5 days after sending contract
    • 1 week after ghosting
  • Automate what you can. Use your CRM, email software, or even a paper planner to remind you. Or set a recurring reminder that literally says, “Hey bestie — did you follow up with anyone today?”
  • Make it low-pressure. A good follow-up is casual and clear. You’re not begging — you’re inviting.
  • Batch follow-ups into a single time block. Instead of letting them haunt you all week, pick a time (like Monday mornings or Friday afternoons) and do it all at once.
  • Track your sent follow-ups. Neurodivergent brains are great at forgetting we already did the thing. Use a checkmark, spreadsheet, or email tag to keep track.
  • Detach your worth from their response. This is the big one. Their silence isn’t a referendum on you. Following up is about your integrity, not their outcome.

TL;DR Deb's final thoughts

  • Follow up when you haven’t heard back in a few days and the ball is in their court.
  • Don’t follow up endlessly or when you’re only doing it to ease your internal anxiety.
  • Use tools, scripts, and structure to make it easier for your brain.
  • Your business will thank you — and your nervous system will too.
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Money Shame, Guilt, and the Doula Who Just Wants to Help

8/3/2025

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You became a doula because you care — deeply. You’re the one people call when they need calm in the chaos, a nonjudgmental ear, or someone who just gets it. You didn’t get into this work for the money.
But at some point, you probably realized… you also can’t do it for free.
That realization often comes with a side of guilt — maybe even shame. Because if you really care, wouldn’t you do it no matter what? Wouldn’t you help anyone who needs it, regardless of their budget?
Let’s talk about that.

The “Good Doula” Myth

Somewhere along the way, many of us absorbed the message that being a “good doula” means being endlessly available, infinitely generous, and totally okay with undercharging.
Especially if you’re neurodivergent, you may already have a complicated relationship with value and worth. Maybe you were told you’re “too sensitive” or “not focused enough,” so when someone hesitates at your rate, your brain whispers, See? You’re not worth it.
But here’s the truth: Caring doesn’t mean discounting.
You can be deeply compassionate and charge sustainable rates. You can want to help and pay your bills. These things are not in conflict — unless someone else benefits from keeping you small.

The Neurodivergent Twist

If you’re neurodivergent, money mindset can feel even heavier.
You might:
  • Freeze when it’s time to talk about payment
  • Avoid following up with potential clients
  • Discount without being asked (because you assume they can’t afford it)
  • Feel physically uncomfortable stating your rates
That’s not a character flaw. It’s a combination of lived experiences, survival strategies, and social wiring that make traditional sales tactics feel icky or unsafe.
Let’s be clear: you’re not broken — your nervous system is just trying to keep you safe.

When I first started as a doula, I would give my rate, and then in the same breath, tell them that I can take less.

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Reframe: Charging = Capacity

Here’s a gentler truth:
 When you charge sustainably, you protect your capacity to keep helping.
Undercharging leads to burnout, resentment, and eventually stepping away — not because you don’t care, but because you can’t sustain it. That helps no one.
Charging enough allows you to:
  • Work fewer births, so you can show up fully
  • Take time off for your own healing
  • Build a business that lasts longer than a year or two
  • Still offer sliding scale or pro bono work — on your terms
You can’t pour from an empty cup, no matter how well-trained you are.

Try This Instead:

  • “I offer flexible payment plans, but my fee is firm.”
  • “Sustainable pricing helps me provide better support for every client.”
  • “I’m committed to accessibility, and also to honoring my own limits.”
You don’t need a script. You need permission. So here it is:
  • You’re allowed to want to help people.
  • You’re allowed to need to get paid.
  • You’re allowed to do both.

Want to Go Deeper?

If you’ve been undercharging, over giving, or avoiding money altogether… you’re not alone. I’ve been there. Let’s talk about how to shift your mindset, your pricing, and your confidence — without turning into someone you’re not.

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